I think some of my issues with posting related to wanting to post quality stuff. Elliots recent article How I Write A Lot helped me see that I should be focusing on quantity when trying to learn a new thing, and that that is a more reasonable route to quality than working on quality directly. I also feel like I’ve kind of let go of some tension I had around embarrassing myself or something. I’m just trying to learn how to do a new thing and trying not to be too judgemental of myself at this stage. It’s something I’m thinking about how to applying to other things I want to improve at too.
I also did get a lot of experience posting on the forum while I was during tutoring, and I eventually just became more comfortable with it.
Maybe feeling comfortable posting is just something that will change if you try and do it more. Maybe it feels uncomfortable because it’s a skill that you haven’t gotten used to yet; it’s still a new thing? Maybe spending too much trying to figure out an ideal plan for how to approach something is a problem and just trying do it more without thinking to much about it could lead to better results.
I think something like that happened with me. I found I was scared of certain things happening and found out I was wrong to be so scared about them. Also, it’s nice now also having more beginners around posting. When I started doing tutoring there were only maybe 2-3 beginners posting, and the posting was very occasional or non-existent.
That’s been my experience. I remember the first few times I posted on the forum it felt a bit scary or something. Whereas now I feel fine.
I’ve had the same experience with other things. Like I once briefly had a job as a door-to-door salesman and the first time knocking on a strangers door to try sell stuff felt a bit surreal. But I quickly got used to it. I think exposure therapy might be a related phenomenon. Also, I think PUAs recommend similar stuff for anxiety around approaching women.
Was watching this video by Alex Hormozi and some aspects of his thinking and writing process reminded me of CF, so I wanted to write about it:
He talks about trying to start with as few assumptions as possible and then break his existing models and way of thinking. This reminds me of trying to find flaws in ideas (criticisms) to improve them. He also often talks about removing mythology around things and not judging them before understanding their goal/purpose. This reminds me of the idea-goal-context concept.
In other videos he also talks about constraints a lot, which makes me think he has read Eli Goldratt’s work.
The reason that I think the content that I have disproportionately performs is that I act as though I am speaking to an autist. And so the idea is that an autist can only observe what they can see. They are not going to interpret sarcasm or additional meaning, reading between the lines. They are absolutists. They are objectivists. But that also means that you can teach everyone when you boil it down to only things that are observable, because there’s nothing you can question about it.
A few things I don’t immediately agree with, like that autists are absolutists or that things that are observable can’t be questioned, but I think he is exaggerating some statements for effect. I do agree with the idea that feelings are easy to miscommunicate, misunderstand, and ultimately be less objective or correct.
