Can you think of some interpretations where neither the husband nor wife is particularly at fault? Sometimes it’s important to stop blaming people and look at things in other ways. Even if this particular husband is mainly to blame, it’s still a useful skill in general.
Yeah more like this.
Also try what @anonymous105 said. That’s good too.
Great point. I agree. I was just considering it on a scale of asshole to not-asshole. I took my evaluation as just a negative judgement of him (asshole). So when considering an alternative I defaulted to considering less negative judgements of him. (And the issue Elliot brought up with my evaluation wasn’t that it was too negative, but that it was mean). But you’re right, I could have considered alternative negative judgements.
True! Ok I totally agree. I can see my judgement of ‘pathetic’ is quite superficial, and I can see it doesn’t match the situation. I wonder if this is evidence that I was actually being mean in my judgement. Or I was too influenced by how the wife presents the situation, or both.
Right. I agree there were big problems with those. I like the focus on those two issues. I agree that how you express your opinions and how you handle disagreements are really important.
Thanks for the great response.