Pick one thing, like eating healthy or one of the others, and think/talk about why you think that will make your life better. Why is it important? If you do it, what will the results be?
Hmm. Iāll just go with eating healthier.
I think eating healthier will help with my general energy. Various things can go into why Iām tired a lot but I think eating healthy can help with that. And eating healthy goes with not eating unhealthy. I do think some of the unhealthy stuff also leads me to feeling bad/tired (I stopped eating Burger King near my work because I always felt terrible after eating it).
I think eating healthy will be better for me to live a longer life Getting the nutrients I need (though Iāve heard that food isnāt as nutritious as before) is good. Also I want to lose weight and eating better foods seems like a good stop. Being honest here I do want to lose weight to look better, but I also want to lose weight because I think I will feel better.
Also eating healthy to me is almost synonymous with cooking at home and eating less. Both things that can help me save money. I would say most of my money goes to food (not counting bills and stuff). Not spending that money would be good for me. I can choose to put it towards better stuff , save it, or just work less and have more free time for other interests
Hmm. So I think eating healthy will help me have more energy, help me save money, and is better for general longevity. .
How much? What tangible results will you get in your life? How much extra energy, as well as money, will doing healthier eating cost? How much time spent doing less fun activities?
Do you think that you felt bad because of guilt or stress about unhealthy eating, or do you think the food has a physical effect on you thatās noticeable the same day? If a physical effect, which ingredients cause it by what mechanisms?
This doesnāt sound specific enough to be very motivational.
How much money would you save per month? What would you buy with it instead? Do you know how many dollars per month you spend on food now and in what categories (eating out, frozen microwave foods, whole foods, etc)?
Overall, I suspect that you arenāt doing it because you arenāt very persuaded because you havenāt thought it through in detail. You could use more knowledge about it and donāt actually know enough yet to reach conclusions. This idea of understanding things in more detail before expecting to be motivated to do them may be useful for @LMD too.
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No it wasnāt guilt or stress about eating unhealthy. I only time I really regret eating unhealthy is when I feel physically unwell after eating unhealthy. That usually happens when I eat a lot of some kind of typically unhealthy food. Like Iām fine having a burger, fries, and a soda. Where I feel bad is having two burgers, fries, a soda, ice cream, and some cake. Something like that.
The other regret is sometimes related to how much I spend on food. Iāve spent $30 on meals before and regretted that. Its not like it put me in a bad financial spot or anything. After eating I just felt like that was a lot of money for a meal.
I think Burger Kings food has a physical effect but Iām not sure what ingredients and by what means. All I know here is that if I have similar meal at McDonalds I feel fine. So at McDonalds a Double Quarter Pounder with fries and a drink I feel fine. I have a Double whopper with fries and a drink from Burger king and I just feel super tired after. Idk why.
Mmm. Idk how much extra energy Iāll get. I just assume it would be a lot more.
I think the tangible results I will get is getting more stuff done in a vague sort of manner. I just feel like energy is a big reason why certain things donāt get done. If I had more of that I would do more.
Hmm. I donāt have numbers for how much it would cost me. I just spend a lot eating out and so I assume I will end up spending less not eating out.
I havenāt thought much about the energy and time going into eating healthier.
Hmm. Yeah I think so too. I think I havenāt looked into it much because of wanting things to be perfect. Like you asked about what I spend now. I can probably figure that out, but since the number fluctuates I just ended up treating it like a useless number. Some times I spend more eating out. Sometimes I spend more on groceries. Therefore since the number isnāt consistently perfectly I donāt feel like it would be a helpful goal to think about how money I would save.
But yeah I havenāt researched much into it and probably because of that I donāt do it. I also think because Iāve had failed attempts where things in my life didnāt magically improve (probably because I didnāt think how things were going to improve) after doing something like eating healthier that I struggle to do it on subsequent attempts.
No. I think its documented in previous posts what I covered so I will check it soon.
Hmm. I think I failed at posting 5 posts a day for a month. I think it was the past week?
I initially kept track but then stopped. I stopped because I was keeping track on my notes app on my mac, but a good number of days I was on my gaming PC posting on the forum.
Hmm. I missed some days and didnāt post enough on some days for more or less the same reason: being too tired. Initially it felt easy to keep posting on some of the topics and keep replying but at some point some of the conversations felt harder to keep just reading and replying on. For example in
That response was harder for me to quickly respond to it felt. I did end up doing it, but then I got no response. Iām not complaining about the no response but I was relying on that chain to keep up posting. Now I had to find a new thing to post on which was hard when tired. I think I can do the writing part fine while tired. Its the reading part thatās hard. Many responses I had were short enough that I could read them easily.
One thing I did was āreadā/listen through TTS some articles and then post about them. That made ti easier to go through them. I went for a short walk, listened, and then posted some.
Iām going to keep trying to post around 5 times a day for now.
Oh yeah is that something worth disclosing? reading vs using tts?
also kinda related to how I miss words sometimes when reading. Its because of that that I prefer tts. I noticed it when I first consumed audiobooks. I realized how many things I would skip over, not understand when reading
Something else related to not doing stuff:
I always feel like pushing stuff to tomorrow. Iām enjoying this game right now I can start on working on philosophy and stuff tomorrow. Iāll start exercising tomorrow when I feel better. etc. Is this a case of not knowing what I like? Instead of trying to do more stuff now or something I should focus more on liking philosophy more than gaming or something?
Putting stuff off could be fatigue, procrastination, perfectionism (combined with mild fatigue, mild distractions, or other imperfect circumstances), disinterest, less interest than for other stuff, misconceptions about time or scheduling. There are many potential causes.
Similar to with healthy eating, I think you should focus on problem solving and knowledge creation about more specific stuff, and making incremental progress, rather than on a big picture personality change. Just trying to change to be the kind of person you think you should be tends not to work well; solving specific problems one by one tends to work better.
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To post a lot daily you canāt rely on specific topics and other people. You have to be able to find or create topics yourself, e.g. by going through the old ET shares links topics, brainstorming topics, or finding stuff on the web.
if/when you think itās relevant.
Are you saying you miss fewer words with listening than visual reading?
How do you know this? What steps did you take to reach this conclusion?
That doesnāt sound very convincing.
So you donāt have any clear knowledge that if you do X and Y, you will get benefits a lot bigger than the costs.
I think you may have similar issues in lots of areas: you consciously think you should change, but you donāt really know enough to reach that conclusion. So your intuition isnāt persuaded so you donāt change much.
Itās common that people consciously reach conclusions too easily, too early, with too low standards and too much ignoring disagreement/criticism/doubts/alternatives, but their sub-conscious doesnāt change that easily.
Yes All the words are said after all. The only time I miss words when listening is when I miss whole parts and sentences because I zone out for whatever reason.
Its not just missing words. I also feel the comprehension is sometimes better. Idk how to put it but sometimes I can read every word in a sentence over and over and I donāt really get any meaning out of it. I have this issue less when listening.
Hmm. Something kinda like this:
First of all, I eat fast food a lot in general. I eat a lot of McDonalds. I eat Burger King less so.
I only started eating BK because its very very close to work. I would eat it during my meal breaks. Compared to other stuff Iāve eating during my meal breaks I always felt tired and kinda gross(?) after having BK. During my meal breaks Iāve had food from my Starbucks, McDonalds, and Chick-Fil-A. Eating from any of those I always felt fine as long as I didnāt eat too much. For Burger King I would eat a normal portion and feel tired after.
It doesnāt sound like you wrote down data. Youāre just going be memory which could be biased. People often jump to conclusions thinking they found a pattern/truth and then have confirmation bias afterwards.
Youāre not trying to use the methods of science but youāre making a claim I think you should have some skepticism about because I think McDonalds and Burger King use similar ingredients. Although Iām also wondering if the portion sizes are actually different, in terms of volume or calories, for what you thought was a comparable meal, and if maybe that could explain it. I donāt know if you consistent eat the whole meal or stop based on hunger cues (or do anything like mindful eating or chewing thoroughly).
I would have low confidence of this kind of result holding up in a blind test where you didnāt know which food you were eating. That would be hard to do because, even if blindfolded, I imagine you could taste the difference. The food could be pre-chewed with a machine, so itās just a paste or maybe a liquid with some added water or soda, and then you could probably swallow that without knowing which restaurant itās from, although it wouldnāt be enjoyable anymore.
Normally Iād say that skipping words when visually reading text, and having more trouble with comprehension, is concerning about your reading skill and that you should try to practice and improve. But given your vision problems, maybe itās related to that, and you should use TTS more to as a way to deal with your vision issues? idk.
In general, I think catching details should be easier with visual reading because itās self-paced and easier to rewind to previous words and otherwise control what youāre looking at. Itās also generally easier to mix visual reading with note taking because you donāt have to hit play and pause and you can copy/paste quotes.
Audio also has some issues like making it harder to follow quotation levels, especially with nesting, and making it harder to follow non-linear text like trees. In my experience with audio, context switches (like scene changes) are also difficult because it doesnāt pause extra for them (TTS doesnāt; some audio books do add pauses at least for chapter changes) to give you time to adjust. When visually reading you can pause a little at scene changes as needed, including doing that intuitively without realizing it. Depending on the book, with TTS sometimes scene changes get no announcement at all if they arenāt at a chapter break, whereas if you were reading visually youād see some kinda extra spacing and scene change marker in the book.
~yeah. something i just remembered:
iāve been eating McDonalds my whole life and a lot of it too. burger king less so. i think iām remembering having more positive outcomes from eating mcdonalds and ignoring all the times i felt awful after mcdonalds.
also i forgot that vaping always made me feel terrible quite often. i would usually vape after a meal and that also made me feel meh and tired. so i could be mixing up bk making me feel awful when its actually vaping (at the time). i havent had bk since i quit vaping (and even a while before that) so i wonder.
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I canāt find the video right now but I recently saw a YouTube short called something like āwhen arab dads daughter like somethingā. it showed the dad buying a bunch of something that the girl liked. i think it was clearly showing the arab dad treating their daughter better.
one of the top comments said something like āarab sons and daughters always think the other one gets treated betterā.
Growing up around some Arab kids I think this happens because each gender just seeās the benefits the other gets and takes their benefits for granted (I assume this happens in a bunch of cultures). Some Arab girls I know of would get jealous of the freedom their brothers had. More freedom to go out, dress up however youād like. But the girls usually were spoiled a bit more (though i think this happens in a lot of cultures) so the guys are jealous because when they ask for something they donāt get it.
Hmm. Something I thnk is kinda common across cultures: fathers donāt really care about guys dating but wonāt really dote on them, fathers dote on their daughters a lot but care about their dating.
Hmm. I donāt know. Some of it could be my vision issues. I got annoyed in the past having to constantly squint at times.
Something I remembered: I think I also developed a habit of skipping words and sentences at times because I just wanted to get to the fun parts of stories. I remember Harry Potter being one of the series that really got me into reading (that and the Percy Jackson books). I now remember skipping paragraphs to get to points I found interesting. I think I did this a lot with scenes that didnāt directly involve Harry. I donāt know for how long it was, but for a while I only ever cared about main character scenes in stories and found scenes that didnāt involve them stupid and annoying.
I remember reading Chamber of Secrets a few years after my first reading and realizing that some of stuff I was confused on I had just skipped over.
I think there are probably remnants of that today. I skip over stuff to get the stuff I want to read.
I think my reading of chinese webnovels hasnāt helped that. Since those Webnovels typically charge by chapter and the price of a chapter is determined by length, authors on their are notirous for filling their novels with an insane amount of fluff to up the word count. This gets me (and many other readers) in the habit of quickly skipping around stuff until the actual story continues.
One thing I realized I like about games: they have clear goals and progression.
I like the fact that I can play a game like, idk, Pokemon Platinum and have a clear goal that Iām accomplishing. It feels like Iām doing something. It feels like Iām achieving something and getting something done. The goal is to beat the elite four and the champion. Great. Do that. Beat the game. Youāve completed it. It feels like I finished something.
I donāt like open-ended games. I never really got too into Minecraft because, I think, of its do whatever youād like nature. I had trouble setting goals for my self in my Minecraft world and just dropped the game because I disliked not having a clear goal in the game. I did like playing with friends but usually one friend would set goals for what weāre doing in the world and Iād bounce off them.
Philosophy involves a lot more choosing your own goals and evaluating success yourself, not having an external authority (like a game designer) to tell you whatās good.
Philosophy is aided by critical discussion, but you have to interpret those discussions and evaluate the arguments made in them yourself. Itās still nothing like just accepting someone elseās judgment.
I think itās better to do all of life in a first-handed way following your own judgment but there are areas where more or less first-handedness is needed. You can do well at gaming with a low amount, e.g. even speedrunning or doing no-hit runs or other stuff that the game designers didnāt put in can be done without thinking of it yourself because lots of other people have already created and shared that goal. Philosophy requires an especially high amount of first-handedness. Also self-improvement stuff where you try to make any unconventional changes to your personality is dangerous without good first-handedness, and also the effectiveness of self-help books is kinda mediocre/unreliable when approached in a second-handed way.
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yeah those are some good thoughts. also just being used to eating food regularly can make a difference that isnāt inherent in the food itself. your gut bacteria could be adapted to what you eat regularly, or you could just be used to habitually ignoring the symptoms you get from the food you eat regularly but then if you get similar but different symptoms you notice.