# Thoughts about thinking about grammar

**URL:** https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/t/thoughts-about-thinking-about-grammar/378
**Category:** Other
**Tags:** learning, grammar, social-dynamics
**Created:** [October 28, 2021, 12:10pm UTC](https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/t/thoughts-about-thinking-about-grammar/378 "2021-10-28T12:10:10Z")
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### Author: ![AnneB](https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/user_avatar/discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/anneb/32/15_2.png) [@AnneB](https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/u/AnneB)
#### Post date: [November 2, 2021, 9:32pm UTC](https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/t/thoughts-about-thinking-about-grammar/378/8 "2021-11-02T21:32:13Z")

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> [@Rules Updates](https://discuss.criticalfallibilism.com/t/rules-updates/126/10):
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> Added to Unbounded rules (this is a clarification not a change): Do not be mean. Criticism should be aimed at truth and progress, not used as an opportunity to attack others. If you think some criticism is mean or attacking, say so. If you don’t point out the problem, no one can clarify what they meant (you may not understand their point) or change their behavior. You can ask how something is meant to help or say what you don’t like. Don’t assume someone is being mean on purpose and silently …

> [@anonymous27](#):
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> That’s because you really want Elliot’s attention.

My intuitive emotional reaction to this comment by anonymous27 was that is was meant as an attack, to be mean. It’s the kind of thing that in other contexts would be meant as mean. My instinct was to defend myself and fight back.

After a few days, I was able to identify my reaction and realize that I didn’t have to react that way. Then I could see that the comment may have been meant to be helpful to me. I decided it most likely was meant to be helpful, and that it’s best to assume that to be the case unless I get more information to the contrary.

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