When I get replies I feel some anticipation, which I think is me wanting the reply to be mostly in agreement with me, wanting to not be criticized too much. I always tell myself that it’s better for the errors to get criticized. I think that the errors are or aren’t there in reality regardless of whether it gets criticized or not. I think to myself that it doesn’t matter to appear intelligent, it’s better to progress. This helps. I guess this is part of how to change your emotions (I haven’t read these essays in some time: Fallible Ideas – Emotions, Bounded and Unbounded Emotions · Elliot Temple).
So this is more about indirection and topic change. I think that’s more okay for me, though I haven’t had major discussions with those kinds of topic changes, so I’m not too sure. I think the issue for me is more the criticism. Although I haven’t gotten harsh criticism and taken it badly either, the stuff you criticized me for in the relationship drama thread went well.
I don’t want to start an unbounded thread and lie about wanting unbounded criticism/discussion, even if I thought I wanted it.