OK you picked up on the guy being a jerk but let’s talk about this some. First:
If someone is an order of magnitude worse, I’d definitely answer NTA or YTA not ESH.
I think the OP is an unreliable narrator. I don’t trust everything he said. So one thing to consider is typical reasons things happen, rather than merely the reason he said they happen.
For example, he says she’s slow/late getting ready for events because she’s doing influencer stuff. Is that the single, exclusive reason? What are the typical reasons women are slow/late when getting ready?
This is particularly relevant because women being slow/late when getting ready is a common complaint and that’s informing a lot of the reactions in comments. It’s the dominant thing people are attacking her for. So it’s worthwhile to think through what the standard narrative around that lateness issue is: how common is it, who does it, what causes it, why is it bad, how bad is it, what are standard attempts to solve the problem and why do they often fail (they must fail a lot or it wouldn’t remain a widespread problem), etc.
One could also consider other forms of lateness, such as being late to work. I think that’s worth being aware of as an option if one wanted to take one’s analysis further, but I don’t think we should get into it at this time.