Considering this is in Friendly feel free not to respond but FYI:
- It’d be easier for me to reply if this was in Unbounded.
- I don’t know why you put it in Friendly – like what your goal with that choice is.
- I don’t know if you considered that I’m much more willing to to reply in Unbounded, and that you’re making a choice there.
- You haven’t discussed your goals, plans, requests/asks from (which) others, contingencies for what you’ll do to continue on your own if others don’t do what you want, offers to others, resources budgeted to plan, reasons you expect to follow through instead of aborting early, why now, why this topic, risks of failure for the project, etc.
- These things make it harder to give any kind of significant help rather than just sporadic comments on bits of interest to the commenter, with no overall plan or organization to help you learn something. And those comments are risky because people often jerk their focus to whatever gets commented on instead of thinking about how important it is to their goals. And they’ll often do that repeatedly if they get multiple comments, even from separate people. So there’s a discouragement to speak at all because saying anything that isn’t super important can lead to bad results for compliant people who don’t keep in mind what’s important and consider stuff in the global context. It sucks when people take an idea, run with it in a way you didn’t intend, sabotage their learning, and then (often not consciously) blame you, which pressures you to follow up more in meta ways (to try to help with the mess) that are hard to speak of in the Friendly category.
- Also in Friendly it’s harder to criticize bad or misleading help given by others. There are recurring problems like people who want to be lecturers/mentors, but who are bad at it and misleadingly overconfident.