Okay, It’s unclear to me what you mean by heteronormative, then. Could you explain or link me to an explanation?
By one of your earlier examples, it seems like my parents did not have a heteronormative relationship and thus fall into the queer category. My mother brought in most of the income and my dad did a lot of cooking and child-rearing. There were certainly other heteronormative qualities, but plenty of variance too.
Do you agree that’d be in the queer category?