From the post (OP quoting her husband):
“If you don’t have enough money to get a bigger house, don’t give birth to two kids.”
This is not the worst thing in the post (by far), but something I thought was notable.
One thing I’ve been quite surprised by is how little some men seem to care about having kids. Like, not only do they not see it as a major goal in their own life, but not even as a major relationship goal. They treat it like it’s just a goal for their wife. He seems entirely uninterested in being a father.
This quote (of the husband) is kind of puzzling too, like he’s treating the house as her responsibility (in addition to the kids). I’m not sure why this is — maybe the quote is substantively inaccurate but it sounds like they’ve been together for a while and he’s the father of both kids, maybe she owns the house and he’s insecure or something. In the update part she mentions being in a patriarchal asian country and being a divorce lawyer, so maybe she’s the breadwinner. One reason this is odd is that, the way it’s phrased, the wife would be responsible for him and his space, too. That implies that instead of “don’t give birth to two kids”, an equally valid ending would be “don’t marry an entitled man-child”.
As an aside, I feel like a major problem in society atm is late maturation. I didn’t think seriously about my future in my late teens/early 20s and my life could have been substantially different if I had. More and more this feels like the norm. It’s encouraged in many ways.