Tangentially, re parenting (my bold):
One of the things that distinguishes people who behave abusively from people who don’t is that abusers think certain behavior can justify abuse. That’s why you’ll hear abusive parents talking about “discipline” and how they’re teaching their kids not to be “bad,” and why right wing men love to frame women as irrational, crazy, emotional, and stupid. The justification for the abuse is built in, and reframes the abuse as love and help. Over time, they convince their victims to believe this, too.
I write about how authoritarian parents—often evangelicals—set their children up for abusive relationships here and here.