Curiosity – I Don’t Want a Non-Public Discussion with You

I try to get my friends to discuss publicly more.

In the past, I tried, year after year, to get DD to discuss publicly more. I repeatedly started new topics on a forum, even when they were written primarily to talk with DD. DD then commonly replied by offlist email or IM. I figured it’d be good if at least the first post in the topic was on a forum, even if the rest couldn’t be (once DD replies non-publicly, my reply to that can’t be public either, but my first post to start the topic isn’t entangled with DD and can be public).

DD kept wanting private conversations with me whereas I’d rather have had the same conversations in public. I was willing to discuss privately with DD rather than not have those discussions at all, but I’m not willing to do that kind of thing with most people.