Dface Stuck on Posting

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Hi, I think im stuck on posting. I mean Im technically posting rn but still im stuck.

I dont know if posting is good for me or not.

I dont want to quit silently and do nothing about it. I think “quiting” and going silent is doing something against being stuck but I don’t like that outcome.

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Brainstorm pro and con lists? Then look for and bold particularly important factors.

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That sounds good, I’ll try that.

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Pros and cons list 1:
Posting about Baba is You
Pros:

  • Learn about problem solving
  • Learn writing to use as a tool
  • Have fun playing a game
  • Wanting to beat the game
  • Get smarter from solving puzzles
  • Learn new things
  • Improve certain skills
  • Practice the Fallibilism part of Critical Fallibalism
  • Make mistakes and learn from them
  • Much easier to write about Baba is You than just playing it cuz writing is more organized
  • Don’t have to keep track of all the things I thought about if I write about it
  • Use writing skills and logic thats more organized than just using my head to solve a level
  • Learn skills I would rarely learn in school like problem solving

Cons:

  • Overthink a post sometimes
  • Too concerned with what I write sometimes that I change it during writing
  • Using up more time to solve a level by writing about it
  • Spending too much time writing a post sometimes
  • Make mistakes and think too much about them
  • Run into the chance when writing a post of messing with my anxiety and making it worse
  • Anxious thinking when writing
  • Dont have my anxiety all figured out yet so it might come up when writing.
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I like the list cuz at the end of the pros list I was thinking how do I tell a friend or family how this is good for me?

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Looking only at the bold cons, does any give you an important reason not to do the activity? And can you think of any solutions to remove or improve those cons?

For being anxious, does it result in a lot of anxiety compared to if you do different activities instead?

For spending time, is it being disruptive to other important activities? Do you get carried away and spend longer on it than you meant to?

For rewriting, I think that’s mostly an issue via the other two: time use and/or anxiety.

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Yeah, if I don’t handle the anxiety well then forget about doing the activity.

Improve? yes read more self help books. Go back to self help books. It’ll improve the anxiety con and maybe the cons for writing.

Remove? Somehow for the anxiety con improve my way of thinking so that I dont think every little bad thing has more significance than it actually has. I think that’ll involve lifestyle changes and becoming smarter cuz those affect having a better perspective on worries.

For removing the rewriting con I can literally just write something not stopping and just post it, but that doesnt fully remove the the rewriting con. For some reason I give in to letting myself rewrite. I think a better perspective would give me a good reason to be ok with what I write naturally. Somehow I gotta learn to be ok with what I write while not forcing myself that I should “just write it out”.

Compared to writing on Unbounded, Baba is You writing gives way less anxiety. Compared to Self help writing I think it gives some less cuz it’s not as personal and revealing as Self help. Compared to following along async, baba writing gives less than the typing weekly. Baba weekly check-in is the easiest cuz I just say what ive been doing and i just gotta be honest.

Not really I don’t really have too much on my plate. I rarely sometimes let my posting keep me up when I should go back to sleep.

Yes.

Now im thinking i could modify the activities I do so it’s more simple.

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I’m gonna try the suggestion made to @LMD about practicing writing privately, cuz I like the idea of getting confidence for writing in public. Here’s the suggestion(link):

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I also meant compared to the rest of your life away from the forum. It’s relevant if you can do lots of other stuff without much anxiety or if you’re anxious about ~everything.

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Oh ok. Stuff like reading a fun book or playing video games seem not result in anxiety and they lessen it too. Waking up in the morning and scrolling on youtube shorts and twitter seem to lead to about the same anxiety as writing Baba is You. Happens more often with scrolling.

I think focusing on trying to address the anxiety makes it worse like Im not approaching it right.

Besides that a lot of things like eating, talking wit friends/family, or doing chores dont really make it better or worse. It’s like a back and forth feeling about the same.

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Hi, I think I’m going to take a break from posting :pensive:

Im gonna keep reading self help books on anxiety and practice posting. Also typing

I want to post and learn but I keep getting in my own way with anxiety. It’s just so annoying

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I think you mean practicing writing privately. Good luck.

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Yes and thank you