These are questions I’m considering in this project and I think I should come up with an answer to.
What’s a good way of choosing what work to do? What should it achieve or create?
How important is it that someone’s work creates or builds something impactful/important to the world at large?
Who should have children?
When is it a good time to get into discussing major life-changing decisions on CF that may require days or weeks of discussion? (Or if not time, what other criterion?)
What skills would be good to improve before such a discussion?
What progress-blocking problems could come with such a discussion?
Why do people leave CF?
What should someone do if they start feeling reluctant or bad about being active on CF? What is a good way to deal with that, considering that being active here to try to resolve it will then fundamentally require feeling reluctant or bad?
When is a good time to use the unbounded category? (Or if not time, what other criterion?)
The long-term goal is to decide which of these questions definitely need answering, and answer the ones that I think need answers. For the sake of having something specific, if only as a point to measure my prediction of complex goal timing, I’d like to complete this goal within 3 months.
As a more concrete sub-goal, I plan to write at least one thoughtful self-initiated post (i.e. not only replying to someone else) each week. Weeks count Mon-Sun. With each post, I’ll also note which question I plan to consider for the next post.
The bigger picture is, getting to a position where I feel comfortable making potentially major life-changing decisions.
The long-term goal is pretty open-ended. My confidence of completing the 3 months target is low (say 50%) but I think that’s a result of a lot of unknowns which would be there for any specific time frame.
I’m confident that I’ll meet the weekly mini-goal at least 90% of the time, and failures will be caused by unexpected short-term issues.
I expect this will require a lot of research from me. It may require tangents into studying new subjects. I may need to read new books/forums/articles to create good answers to the goal questions.
To be clear, I’m not asking anyone to answer all these questions for me or do my work. Input is welcome, but my goal is to incrementally answer these questions myself.
As I’m focusing on considering these questions in principle and many of them are CF-related or otherwise fairly common, it’s possible other people may also find these questions valuable to consider too.
I’m sharing this with others because I’ve made too many important decisions on my own and made a mess of them. External input is something I’ve actually avoided and that has almost certainly contributed to an unsatisfactory life so far, so I want to at least make it possible to get outside input.
I will complete this independently if no-one else participates. Part of the purpose here is just to take the time and effort to seriously think about what to do next, instead of making an impatient snap decision.
I’ve only really felt like I have any control over my life for the last 10 years and it’s been a mess of careless decisions, wasted time and money, minimally successful projects, and getting overwhelmed and harming myself with stress.
I want to stop wasting my life on bad decisions. I’m free of past overwhelm and free of pressure to hurry into a decision. I want to decide how to spend the next 10 years (or even 1 year) in a much more considered way. I want to do something important.
I have some more specific thoughts on what sort of things I want to do and find interesting and specific careers, but I don’t want to massively get into stuff that might result in major life-changing choices until I’ve been here and active for longer. I’m interested in looking at related issues for now.
I had originally planned to leave the subject of life goals alone entirely until a later time, but then how do I decide what time is the right time? I don’t know that either, so that plan is already going straight back into making careless decisions, which is why I decided to start this project as part 0 to start talking about things that make up life goals.