I watched the video. The example she gave about being 5 minutes early for a Teams meeting and someone popping in, telling everyone in the room to one by one talk about their weekend, resonated with me. It’s so cringe. Normally the person doing those low talk gimmicks are in a higher position in the company. So you feel extra pressure to play along.
I have a unique perspective on social stuff because I grew up extroverted. Had a lot of friends, played sports, etc. then started to appreciate introversion later in life. Her video gives some good generalizations but a lot of social stuff is context specific. If you have a small team of yapper sales people on the call who know each other, going around the room and talking about their weekend won’t be a big deal. They may see it as an opportunity to be playful.
If you’re playing certain team sports, even the more shy guys on the team get some energy from huddles where you jump around and pump yourselves up. And that can be seen as socially obligatory in those cases. There’s knowledge in some of these traditions.
For work environments, I think a lot of ideas about teams, and tribes are present. Managers think if it’s too quiet or low energy, it’s a problem. Maybe people are unhappy? Maybe they need good leadership and you’re not providing it. Maybe the quiet employee is just shy and feels left out? But, alimcforever shows some people just want to be left alone and do their job, and it will prob benefit the company more to leave them be.