Sure, but you’re not in the top 5% of men and the women who were there for validation already got it. So your experience doesn’t contradict the idea that sex and validation are two big usages of dating apps by women.
Why don’t you think it’s a mix of good and bad reasons? Are women just like innately better thinkers? More emotionally stable? Better at reasoning? Better at long term planning? Immune to social media suggestion?
You mean emotionally intelligent, right?
Couldn’t possibly have something to do with wedding vows, too, could it? Maybe men are just more honest or willing to honor a commitment. Or maybe the incentives are such that often there is little downside for the woman but a big downside for the man? (This doesn’t always happen, but it does seem to happen often enough)
Anyway, if you’re just going off vibes I am not sure how you intend to convince me that you’re right and not just biased. I’ve pointed out numerous ways that your views might be biased but you haven’t acknowledged a single one.
What makes you say that? It shouldn’t be divorce stats because we haven’t had gay marriage for long enough, yet. (It’s only been like 10 years, plenty more relationships will fail in the next 10)
Okay.
So I take this to mean that you don’t know many people in that situation, and you don’t have any actual argument against it. Like if all women had these biases, you wouldn’t expect them to be expressed in happy long term relationships between ordinary people. And if the women never had the chance to be with someone who had more status or money or whatever, on what can you base your conclusion?
Like, what you said is correct, but it isn’t addressing the topic directly.
I am using the common name for the thing being described. And plenty of women use the term, too.
I think you’re a bit head-in-the-sand here. You are believing what women say instead of what they do. They are not magically more honest or something (arguably their nature is more geared around social cohesion which is more compatible with dishonesty). Look at the cover of some romance novels, for example. a list. Moreover, you’re ignoring the difference between meeting people through a workplace of friend group and online. No one is saying that women don’t find men more attractive (generally speaking) after getting to know them (assuming they like them after that). Arguably, this has actually been really important for most men. That’s one of the reasons that women act so hypergamously on dating apps. There is no getting to know the men first.
Also, your reason that men routinely meet women’s threshold for attractiveness is because of something other than their attractiveness, which means without that other thing they don’t meet the threshold. That implies a higher standard prior to appreciating the other qualities.
Which are?
Also your argument doesn’t answer the question:
I didn’t ask whether men or women contributed more to the problem, I asked why you think women aren’t contributing at all.