From that:
why can men never just be normal? it’s supposed to be about sharing and kindness etc
instead all male hosts seem to use it as a hookup app at best and a funnel to select rape victims at worst
~I wonder why that’s the case. Brainstorming:
- Guys are taught to care about sex a lot.
- But then I hear things about how women like sex and dating a lot1 . So why aren’t they doing these things as much (I say as much because I assume there’s like one or two women who have done these things). They’re just better people? They can’t because their weaker. Testosterone?
- I think most guys just suck at regular emotional sharing and stuff like that. I think there is the sentiment that guys see girls as sex objects. I think that’s true to a large extent, but I also think guys just see other guys as objects to a point. Yeah your boyfriend doesn’t know your birthday, but he also doesn’t know any of his friends usually. Most guys will say its because that kind of thing doesn’t matter, but I don’t know.
- Something I thought about: I think most people have pretty crappy lives. Attraction gives a good feeling in the middle of a crappy life. I think people chase that attraction high. I think guys do that a lot.
- I think a combination of caring a lot about sex + feeling entitled to women’s bodies + a guy being unattractive to women, can lead to SA and rape. The thought process is “Sex is important, I deserve sex, women won’t give me sex, women won’t give me something I deserve and that is important, so I’ll just go ahead and rape them”
1. I don’t have much experience dating. Its close to zero/very limited. All my opinions and stuff are just coming from stuff I read, stuff I’ve observed, and stuff I’ve heard people say.
Sad that avoiding single, straight men helps but isn’t a guarantee or something. Like you can go to the house of a couple or something and still get hurt.
Side note:
I wonder how much of this has to do with porn.
I think kids seeing something online will think its normalized. I’ve heard stories of kids doing dumb shit because of streamers and stuff like Kai Cenat and IShowSpeed.
In a similar manner I wonder if there are a generation of men who’s primarily sexual knowledge is ridiculous porn scenarios. Maybe? But also sexual abuse and stuff has been a problem for a while anyways so I don’t know how much could be attributed there.
Thats wild that one of the doctors responses was “What if your husband wants kids?”. Though, I guess, I wonder if he’s had issues of women regretting stuff like that.
The 5 minute zoom call is a big yikes though. Sucks that women seem to have to fight to get something. Though, did she end up getting something? I don’t know if i missed that.
That’s really sad.