Continuing the discussion from Comments on The Boyfriend’s Introduction to Feminism:
@anonymous45 I have noticed a trend in your posts that sometimes makes extended conversation difficult. I think it leads to a lot of tangents. I also think it contributes to you feeling overwhelmed and maybe getting burnt out. And might contribute to people getting frustrated when discussing with you.
The issue, as I see it, is this: In the middle of discussions you often throw in an assertion that is not directly related to the topic and is highly controversial. These are tossed in as what I would call an “aside” — a quick comment without much/any argument for it, stated as if it were a basic fact.
A few recent examples:
These examples are not comprehensive. I gathered them from just the past few days. I think it also happened several times during active discussion of trans/LGBTQ issues a few months ago.
None of these asides were argued for in the posts where you asserted them. I disagree with them, but more importantly I think they are all very controversial. I think many people would disagree with them, predictably. You could have (should have) known they would be controversial before you stated them.
I sometimes find these asides kind of fascinating, and end up arguing with them. But that typically means that you end up with multiple replies off of a single post, which I’m guessing adds to you feeling overwhelmed. Several such tangential threads have been entirely dropped in previous discussions.
I am not sure what can be done about this. Any ideas?